WHY EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE Is All the Hype for 2020


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WHY EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE Is All the Hype for 2020

BY JENNIFER GALVAN, PH.D.

Jennifer Galvan Psychologist

@aliana.king

“Emotion is more powerful than reason.  Emotion is the driving force behind thinking and reasoning.  Emotional intelligence increases the mind’s ability to make positive, brilliant decisions”. – Dr. T.P.Chia

Most of us are familiar with academic, creative, or analytical intelligence, but more recently, emotional intelligence is gaining more attention. Emotional intelligence is a form of understanding that consists of four skills.  The first is having emotional awareness.  In other words, having the ability to identify and label one’s own and others’ emotions.  This includes detecting emotions in the face and voice.  The second skill is the ability to harness one’s emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking or problem-solving.

Those with greater emotional intelligence are able to use their emotions to guide them toward their current tasks.  The third is understanding emotions and having the power to be empathic and sensitive to the variations between emotions.  Finally, the fourth is managing emotions, which includes both regulating one’s own emotions and helping others regulate theirs.  With this skill, emotionally intelligent individuals can not only harness positive and negative emotions, they can also manage them in order to accomplish their goals.

Much like strengthening a muscle with physical exercise, emotional intelligence can also be developed through practice and application.

Ways to enhance EI skills include:

  1. Work on increasing self-awareness by allowing negative feelings to arise without an effort to avoid them or judge them. The more you can be candid with yourself, the faster you can identify what you are experiencing from within.  In other words, you are aware of your own “emotional bullshit”!
  2. Manage your emotions by objectively reflecting to see if your emotions are suitable for the situation and then acting accordingly.
  3. Practice empathy and recognize others’ emotional needs. You can do this by becoming conscious of verbal and non-verbal cues to try to understand others’ perspectives, and by putting yourself in their shoes.
  4. Become aware of your stressors by keeping track of things that increase your stress level and be proactive in taking steps to minimize them.
  5. Find ways to handle adversity by practicing optimism, asking constructive questions, and taking initiative toward solutions.

Greater emotional intelligence is positively correlated with greater social ability and interactions. This leads to more positive interpersonal relationships.  Individuals with higher emotional intelligence have greater academic achievements, work performance, and negotiating abilities.  They are often more effective coaches and leaders as well as more successful in business.  Overall, individuals with greater emotional intelligence display better psychological well-being from having more self-awareness, a greater ability to control strong emotions, and deeper, more intimate relationships from empathizing with others.

Jennifer Galvan, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Woodland Hills, California.  Dr. Galvan has several years of training and experience in psychoanalytic psychotherapy and has been part of many podcasts and seminars around diverse topics.  For more information, visit Dr. Galvan’s website at Jennifer Galvan or follow @dr.jennifergalvan on Instagram.

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BY JENNIFER GALVAN, PH.D.

 

Teimpo de Reflexionar


La depreción y el suicidio

La Deperción

 

Pasamos por momentos difíciles que tomaron años de acumulación, ojalá existiera una barita mágica para arreglar todo en un momento, pero no es así.  La presión que siento sólo exacerba mi condición y aumenta negativamente mis emociones.  Si hubiera una píldora mágica la tomaría, pero es un proceso que toma tiempo.  Yo quiero sanar mis heridas, pero tampoco quiero ir a la prisa para desfallecer y volver a caer en el abismo.  La paciencia es una virtud que se debe aprender y que también toma mucho tiempo en conseguir.

No podemos obligar a las personas a recuperarse rápido, lo que resulta en mayor carga emocional y dilata el proceso de recuperación.  Esta temporada festiva del año no es buena para muchas personas, incluyéndome.  La depresión en los tiempos festivos son momentos para mantener la calma con aquellos que la sufren durante este tiempo.  El no facilitar el proceso de sanación afecta a los afectados.  Todos necesitamos ser sanados, cada uno de nosotros tenemos nuestras heridas de las que tenemos que recuperarnos.

Dense el espacio para hacerlo, el amor propio es lo primero, si no te amas primero, no puedes amar o ayudar a los demás.

 

 

 

 

Draókos (The Black Dragon)
Psicofilosofía Urbana es (c)1980
Copyright 1980 ICP

 

No Creo


El Todo es mente el universo es Mental.

El Mentalismo

No creo en nada de lo que veo, oigo, siento o huelo.  Nada es real, sólo existe Uno que no se ve y de quien no se sabe nada, sólo que Es, el invisible, aquel de quien habla Pablo de Saulo.  Nos llenamos el ego de todo lo que es banal, trivial y olvidamos que existe algo más grande que nosotros que no podemos imaginar.  Para el Todo, no existe lo bueno o lo malo, son simples grados de importancia.  El frio, por ejemplo, es lo mismo que el calor, solo existen grados por medio.  Para una persona que vive en el polo norte 300 bajo cero es frio y 600 grados es caliente.  Ahora dile lo mismo a uno que viva en la zona ecuatorial del planeta si 600 es caliente.

Todo es lo mismo y la verdad tan son sólo medias verdades.  No existe nada absoluto sólo el Todo es absoluto, y somos su creación mental.  El Todo es mente y el universo es mental.  ¿Yo soy yo?, seré el mismo de hace unos cinco minutos atrás, o tal vez 20 o 50 años atrás.  La respuesta definitiva es NO, todo cabía todo conforme a la ley de regeneración.  Nacemos, morimos.  Universos nacen y luego son destruidos.  Estos son probados por la ciencia, no lo digo yo.

El que dice que no cambiará, que es el mismo de siempre, se engaña así mismo pues esta ley es inquebrantable.  Vivimos prestados para aprender con cada lección de vida para ascender más cerca de nuestro verdadero origen.  El fanatismo nos consume y nos siega a verdades que son aparentemente imposibles de creer, pero como ya he explicado todas las verdades son medias verdades ya habrán pasado juicio sobre lo que he manifestado hasta el momento.

Sólo los grandes Maestros han logrado entender estas las leyes y no presumo de conocerlas a cabalidad, pues con cada día que pasa necesito saber más, aprender, entender e internalizar dichas enseñanzas.

Se habla de un Maestro que entendió a cabalidad lo que estas leyes significaban.  Fue condenado y crucificado para mostrar que se podía prosperar a un plano más elevado de existencia y los escribas de aquel entonces hablaron de ello.  Inclusive ha habido otros maestros que también lograron entender estas leyes, desde Abraham, Enoc, Elías, Moisés y Jesús, sin considerar los de otras culturas que también las compartían.

Entonces que soy.  Parte de un sueño, una idea creada para materializar en este plano físico de existencia.  Con cada interacción y cada vida ascenderemos a nuestro origen, eventualmente.  Entonces estaremos más cerca de Aquel quien no pensó, pues todo y está en su mente y no existe nada fuera de ella.

 

 

 

Draókos (The Black Dragon)
Psicofilosofía Urbana es (c)1980
Copyright 1980 ICP

 

Fine line…


In all things seen and unseen, there’s a fine line in between for everything. Madness and Sanity, Love and Hate, Sensuality and Sexuality, each according to each individual’s perceptions.

Then, when much is too much? or, little too few? Is society able to establish these boundaries? Is it possible to accommodate everyone?

If the answer is no, not everyone can be accommodate, then are the rights of the ones left without say wrong? Just because a majority say so?

Take history as a metric. Let’s say 500 years ago, a person with epilepsy would be considered a mentally disabled person. How about 50 years ago. Would the color of the skin be a negative factor in human behavior? How about today, is gender any relevant to the human condition?

What about 50 years from now, would the human elderly be treated better or worse than today. Mind you that in this time there are very little and few benefits or laws that protect these population.

Then let’s examine our original hypothesis. Where do we put, cut, or establish the fine line?

Can anyone say?

Consider the war between Athenians and Spartans. Each would say that they had the answer, but did they?

No one can stop or detain evolution. Things that are meant to happen will happen and there’s nothing that humanity can do about it.

Draókos (The Black Dragon)
Psicofilosofía Urbana es (c)1980
Copyright 1980 ICP

Explain Love


I like to share these lyrics from M2C, that depicts my thoughts on Love.

You are the candle, love’s the flame
A fire that burns through wind and rain
Shine your light on this heart of mine
Till the end of time
You came to me like the dawn through the night
Just shinin’ like the sun
Out of my dreams and into my life
You are the one, you are the one
Said I loved you but I lied
‘Cause this is more than love I feel inside
Said I loved you but I was wrong
‘Cause love could never ever feel so strong
Said I loved you but I lied
With all my soul I’ve tried in vain
How can mere words my heart explain
This taste of heaven so deep so true
I’ve found in you
So many reasons in so many ways
My life has just begun
Need you forever, I need you to stay
You are the one, you are the one
Said I loved you but I lied
‘Cause this is more than love I feel inside
Said I loved you but I was wrong
‘Cause love could never ever feel so strong
Said I loved you but I lied
You came to me like the dawn through the night
Just shinin’ like the sun
Out of my dreams and into my life
You are the one, you are the one
Said I loved you
But this is more than love I feel inside
Said I loved you… But I lied
Songwriters: Michael Derek Bolton / Robert John “mutt” Lange
Said I Loved You but I Lied lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group

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